How are you doing, My Dear?
Two weeks into this new world of COVID social distancing
How are you managing this wild new territory?
Isolating with one person can bring us together,
it can get messy, too.
Like yesterday …
My partner and I had barely begun to hike up Mt. Tom
when we really got into it.
He’s all about protecting… and I hate to feel controlled!
After weeks of managing who does what, when and how…
you can imagine the mess we made!
This Sunday’s video is all about fear, power and control,
and the personal resistance we all have to copping to our favorite defenses.
Because every time, that’s what blocks the love.
I’ll share how it finally relaxed as we reached the summit,
and we could finally embrace a sweet compassion for our shared humanness.
I’ve added a short meditation at the end of the video, too,
that calmed ME even as I shared it.
Hope it does the same for you.
Because, My Dears, right now fear is everywhere.
No denying it.
We’re afraid for ourselves, our families,
and those we don’t even know by name.
It’s really easy to get sacred right now.
…and get lost there,
franticly searching for some way to control whatever we can!
So much is just beyond our control.
So we latch onto what we can control.
Good thing, too, like washing our hands
or keeping a good 6’ distance from others.
But when we try to manage what’s beyond our control
like somebody else
— when we try to get them to change so we aren’t so uncomfortable —
That’s when we get into a real mess.
Humans like to be in control.
It helps us feel safe… whether we are or not.
And we’ll do any manner of things to avoid feeling the terror lurking inside.
We’re masters at distracting ourselves
Avoid what we don’t want to see
Or blaming whoever is nearest for making us feel crappy.
I know… because it’s all coming up right now for me
as I shelter in place.
And maybe, just maybe, you’re feeling it, too.
But here’s what I’m still learning
through years of struggle and multiple messes,
but annealed with with the benefit of much spiritual study and inner exploration.
Pushing the fear away
by trying to control someone else or the vast unknown
leaves me feeling weaker instead of more powerful.
Because at best, trying to control something “out there” is only a temporary fix
To keep from touching into the deeper realms inside,
…the tender places we’d just as soon dismiss as irrelevant
…or too long buried to resurrect.
And every defense, no matter how facile or brilliant,
is a misguided attempt to avoid feeling the festering wound inside.
One that only heals when the shield can drop,
relaxing into the vastly safer holding of a deeper wisdom.
That’s where freedom lies, at last.
So, Dear Ones, listen to your body…
and find the grounding there that will help you feel safe.
And if you’d like a companion through this storm,
…if you’d like to explore the yucky stuff coming up as you shelter at home
Or the fear that shakes your core during this challenging time,
Let’s talk. I have a few spots availble this week.
Sending so much love,