These are crazy times, Dear Women…
After the torment of this past month…
After Irma and Maria and now LasVegas
We’re living in a whole new paradigm.
On Monday I felt the undertow, threatening to pull me down.
Tossing me in the surf as I gasped for breath.
Really, there’s MORE?!!!
How are you coping?
It’s so easy to get lost in the anguish we see on our screens.
Feeling the pain of so many, dealing with so much!
And here’s why:
It’s natural for our hearts to break
when someone is suffering.
That’s the shadow side of the feminine.
It’s just part of the package.
We feel so much!
But when I’m immersed in grief for what I have no power to change
and overwhelmed by all that I must contend with every day
I can easily lose my way.
So this week I’m taking stock.
I can’t live like this.
Because if I do
I sacrifice my power and purposefulness to despair.
And right now, we can’t afford that, Sisters!
The world needs us too badly!
It’s time to take my own care seriously.
And that means stepping away from it all.
Turning everything off, at least for a minute or two.
Finding moments of quiet to come back to center.
This is the self-care the feminine must have to survive.
But I tend not to do that.
Instead I hang right in there, feeling it all.
Somehow sure that sacrificing myself will help.
This My Dears, is what we’ve been trained to do.
And it just doesn’t work, does it?
But why is it so hard to step away?
I know how a walk in Nature will help.
Or gazing at last night’s brilliant full moon.
Then I can re-member myself again.
It’s just making it happen that’s the trick.
That’s why I go on retreat.
And why I bring women with me.
Isn’t that just a bit self-indulgent
when so many are suffering with so much?!!!!
What I’ve found is that stepping away from the craziness
for a day or a week
can actually begin to reset our cultural patterning.
It’s nearly impossible to make real change otherwise.
Especially in the midst of rapid-fire tragedy.
To come back to our destiny,
to live in the aliveness and empowerment that the world most needs,
We must have pleasure!
That’s ridiculous!, I hear you’re screaming…
“When the world has gone this nuts,
you want me to hide my head in the sand,
whistle some happy tune,
and pretend it’s not happening?”
No, Dear Sisters.
Please. Our empathy is what makes us so beautiful!
But here’s what’s true:
We must have real pleasure to balance the difficulty of being human.
And I don’t mean another glass of wine or binge-watching Game of Thrones.
That’s just the easy default when the day’s too under-pleasured.
Here’s the problem…
We easily lose touch with all that’s meant to bring us pleasure!
…all that’s actually here to get us through these crazy times we live in,
…the sweet morsels of joy that are just waiting there.
They can mitigate the overdrive we live in
and the overdose of bad news we hear every day.
We live on an exquisitely beautiful planet,
yet we don’t know how to truly take it in
… how to access the full measure of support and delight that is our birthright.
I’m guessing you weren’t taught to receive these moment-to-moment pleasures
through your senses, body, and deeper being.
Not if you grew up in this culture.
I surely wasn’t.
What I’m talking about is a deeper kind of Turn-ON
and what we need to thrive
in the kind of world we’re living in now.
Because drowning in the current is no help to anyone.
It’s why I make it a point to get away,
and why this week I’m making it a little easier.
Just through Sunday, October 15th
I’m taking 20% off the cost of coming to Haramara with me.
Here’s a video I made about the retreat…
We need real tools,
a strategy and a set of practices that can shift us
away from perpetual struggle
and into the moment-to-moment pleasure we were built to enjoy.
That, Sisters, is my work.
and why I take women away with me for a week.
We need a pleasure intervention
and a good bit of re-training in delight.
A little dose of paradise doesn’t hurt, either.
So take a look.
Then join me at Haramara this January.
And feel free to touch base if you have questions.
No matter if you’re retreating with me in Mexico
or taking a moment right now to listen to the rain,
you can reclaim the pleasure your body and being were meant to give you.
If you just step away.