These are crazy times!
Like none we’ve ever seen.
Here’s what I know.
When it all gets to be too much
what I really need most
is to remember what’s real.
I’m not talking about all the accurate reports on how many have died from this virus.
And the scientific projections and statistics for what’s ahead.
These truths frighten us to death
And in that state, can unhinge us entirely from what is just as true.
There is vast wisdom and support in our bodies
if we just get out of our wild, spinning minds for a few minutes
and give the body a chance to do what it does best.
So why is it so hard for us to receive deeper support?
I’ll be riffing on this over the next few weeks, so stay tuned,
and every Sunday offering these video blogs and a short meditation to help.
we’ve been taught in our hyper-masculinized culture
— and likely by our very early conditioning —
that when we’re feeling most vulnerable
It’s up to us to figure this thing out!!!
Think fast! AND RIGHT NOW!
so we’re in the habit of expecting all the answer to come from our minds.
Only in a panic,
we lose any connection to the wisdom of our bodies.
When we’re terrified about what might happen
our minds don’t work so well,
and we feel even more vulnerable.
Here’s where I think the confusion starts.
YES…those brains are smart!
And I want every brilliant mind alive to be working on this crisis.
Go for it — epidemiologists, researchers, scientists.
Let’s crack this thing wide open, and fast.
This purposeful and strategic analysis,
All the in-depth study and careful technological advances
Are evidence of the mind’s yang, healthy masculine energy
to find ways to protect us.
And ABSOLUTELY, I want the mind’s strategic brilliance
From every human, regardless of your gender.
Don’t get confused here… energy has nothing to do with genitalia.
Only here’s the trouble.
Most of us aren’t scientists.
We’re folks stuck in our houses waiting and watching our screens.
And it doesn’t look like this thing is gonna wrap up anytime soon.
So we do our little part.
We use our smart and strategic masculine energy
to make personal choices to keep us safer
…like keeping 6 feet’s distance, washing our hands, wearing gloves, sewing masks…
Even staying at home.
But it just doesn’t feel like enough!
Maybe that’s because this thing is bigger than all our strategies to feel safe.
We’re left with no way to guarantee safety.
Except to let go of needing proof of that assurance with our minds.
Now we’re in the territory of feminine wisdom.
and a deeper support we can only access through the body.
Let me show you what I mean.
FIRST – take a breath!
It will help.
Then take another… and another.
Make each one a bit deeper and slower.
Notice how it feels when your ribs expand,
when your lungs fill with that miracle oxygen the trees have been making all along
just for you.
And check it out…
Nature and your brilliant body knows exactly how to breathe you!
And how to calm you down… if you let it.
Gee whiz… you didn’t have to make that happen, either!
You didn’t have to teach your lungs to breathe.
You can trust your body and the mystery beyond what you can conprehend
to bring you back to sanity again
when the wild mind takes you into dangerous territory.
We cannot know all of what will go down with this COVID.
But we can know how best to resource ourselves for what’s ahead.
We can remember what’s been gifted to us
…what we didn’t have to think up or build or manufacture…
…what’s there for us ANYTIME we choose to receive it.
You have the sky, Dear Ones, even if you can’t get outside.
Let yourselves have even 5 minutes of receiving its gifts.
And if you can get outside, you fortunate being,
let the Earth and her wisdom supply you with what you most need right now.
This is what I know from experiencing living in a body.
We are being held. Supported. Loved.
It’s obvious if you simply let yourself fully receive all that a whiff of orange can bring you.
… if you open the window and really take in birdsong.
… if you invite your eyes to find splashes of color to awaken your joy.
… if you let a piece of chocolate slowly melting in your mouth take you to nirvana.
Or even if you just take a breath.
And let a deeper, wiser support bring you back to yourself.
But why is it so hard?
Dropping into receiving that feminine embodied support
is not what most of us have been taught to do.
Not by parents or schools
or a society that capitalizes on our insecurity so we’ll buy more stuff.
Dropping into receiving that support is not what would have felt safe
when we were small and panicking,
when we felt alone and scared,
when we realized we couldn’t rely upon others to provide the safety we so desperately needed.
Then what made sense
was to grasp for whatever we could find to distract or avoid or maybe try to fix
the gaping hole of terror we felt, unprotected and vulnerable.
It’s little wonder in these terrifying times
— without practice at receiving support from a source we cannot begin to rationally understand — that we fall back into fear of not having enough support.
So… when the fear grips you,
I invite you to remember what’s also true.
Begin to practice more fully connecting with what your body actually senses
in its interplay with the vast world around you
…and allow yourself to drop into the inexplicable support
that may just be beyond our mind’s scrambling to understand.
What’s a joy there for you now, in this moment if you open to it, Dear?
Maybe let me know below?
With so much love,
PS… If you’d like a hand to hold as you navigate these frightening times, I’m happy to offer session times on a donation basis. My spiritual counselor is offering this to me… so I am passing along the gift. Please reach out to firstname.lastname@example.org.